Who Has the Leading Role in Your Life?

It was the fall of 2021. 

Nate and I had just begun planning our wedding. And it didn’t take long to learn that planning one of the best days of our lives was going to be tough.

One of the first things I did was look up how much the average couple spent on their wedding, and I was shocked. Upwards of $30,000!

Needless to say, we were determined not to go down the same path—no matter how many opinions we would receive from others.

But as the days went by, everything started to add up quickly. 

Of course, we saved as much as possible every chance we could get and found ways to cut costs. Even still, some things were just going to be expensive.

“Okay, so we can’t book that venue. We’ll find somewhere better,” we said. “Okay, the catering is going to cost more than we thought. But we are still within our budget,” we reassured ourselves.

Then, the unexpected happened: Nate lost his job… Two months before the big day…

So, I was ready to say, “Forget it. We don’t need to have a ceremony or anything like that.” 

Friends and family protested us wanting to cancel our plans.

So, even though it would be just one of us saving, we continued planning. 

And all the additional support we received afterward was simply remarkable.

One of our family members paid for the reception; our planner found floral arrangements and extra items we needed at no cost; and we started getting cash from folks who didn’t even know about all the obstacles we were facing. 

Even someone I’d only met over Zoom called me one day to say God told her to give us cash!

I wouldn’t have believed any of this if I hadn’t experienced it firsthand.

What other explanation for all of this is there but God?! 

That’s why I share this story: Because I learned during that season of our lives that God’s role in our lives is bigger than I realized.

See, while Nate and I were busy planning and saving, thinking we were going to get everything done ourselves, the Lord already knew He would get it done for us. 

Maybe the devil wanted to discourage us by making one of us unemployed. But God did not let the weapon he formed against us to prosper (Isaiah 54:17).

And maybe we didn’t know how our budget would work out, but He knew.

Even though I knew that God plays a part in every area of our lives, in all the excitement of that season of our lives I lost sight of that.

But through the people He worked through, God quickly reminded me that my math and His math are two completely different things (Isaiah 55:8-9). 

He reminded me that what’s done in the natural has a limit. But His supernatural works know no boundaries. His ways have no limitations.

And He reminded me that He must play a role in our lives. He must play the main role, not a supporting one. That goes for every area of our lives—especially our finances.

Why should we think that we have to do everything either on our own or with God as the sidekick, when His Word tells us to cast all our cares on Him (1 Peter 5:7)?

Whatever it is in your life—health, work, family, love, and yes, money—remember that God cares about it all. If it matters to you, then it matters to Him. Like any good parent, our Heavenly Father wants the best for His children.

If you want to learn how to handle the matters of life God’s way, especially when it comes to money and possessions, sign up for a financial discipleship small group study here: https://compass1.org/online-small-groups-studies/.

Each time I’ve gone through one of these studies, I am reminded that I shouldn’t—and can’t—do everything on my own. 

God wants you to allow Him to play an active part in your life. Let Him play the leading role.

With gratitude,

Melody Stampley

Managing Editor


Melody is the founder of financial coaching business Centsible Finance LLC. She earned a bachelor’s in public relations from the University of Florida in 2014, and a master’s in global strategic communications from Florida International University in 2017; but she discovered her passion in personal finance and writing, as well as a closer relationship with the Lord after joining a Compass – finances God’s way study in 2020. She now serves as a volunteer on the Compass Florida board, is the editor for the Compass blog, and a facilitator and trainer for financial discipleship studies. Melody, and her husband, Nate, have one son, Isaiah, and live in South Florida.