The Bible provides a series of principles that I call the “one anothers.” They reveal how to relate best to each other. Although these principles don’t apply exclusively to marriage, they do apply to it. I recommend substituting your spouse’s name in place of the “one anothers” as you consider what would happen if you modeled these.
“Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit; but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves; do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others” (Philippians 2:3-4).
“Be at peace with one another” (Mark 9:50).
“Live in harmony with one another” (Romans 12:16, NIV).
“Let us stop passing judgment on one another” (Romans 14:13, NIV).
“So then let us pursue the things which make for peace the building up of one another” (Romans 14:19).
“Accept one another, then, just as Christ accepted you” (Romans 15:7, NIV).
“Serve one another in love” (Galatians 5:13, NIV).
“Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ” (Galatians 6:2, NIV).
“Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love” (Ephesians 4:2, NIV).
“Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you” (Ephesians 4:32, NIV).
“Do not lie to one another…” (Colossians 3:9).
“Comfort one another…” (1 Thessalonians 4:18).
“Make sure that nobody pays back wrong for wrong, but always try to be kind to each other” (1 Thessalonians 5:15, NIV).
“Encourage one another . . .” (Hebrews 10:25, NIV).
“Don’t grumble against each other…or you will be judged” (James 5:9, NIV).
“Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers a multitude of sins” (1 Peter 4:8, NIV).